Quite possibly the easiest advice to give and in the moment of difficulty the hardest to believe. Recently, in a moment of professional chaos and personal devastation, I found myself unraveling to a good friend. I was aware that my emotions were reactive but also unable to slow the snowballing momentum they had gained.
He listened and acknowledged with genuine emotion my sadness, worries, and exhaustion.
And then he said, "I know you know this and I know it's hard to believe right now, but you will be alright."
I was quiet for a moment. My emotions stilled and my shoulders relaxed. I immediately knew he was right. He said the thing I couldn't say to myself. Here's where I am right now. It's hard, it's uncertain, it's a little bit scary. But I will be alright. Right now, I don't know how. But I will. And I needed the reminder. The possibility of being alright was outside my blinders. Somewhere in my peripheral that I couldn't access. But this person could and he brought it back the center of my focus. I will be alright.
So, believe it or not, despite the moments when overwhelming, snowballing feelings take over, you will, indeed, be alright.
You'll get through it, you'll recover, there's more good to come. It feels hard now, but it will get better. You will come out on the other side, stronger, braver, wiser, and better off.
It's true. Count your years. The hard things you've faced. The number of times your emotions snowballed away from you. And the number of times you were, in the end, alright.
So breathe, and let someone give you the easiest advice to give and let yourself believe it to be true. Bring the posseibility of being alright out of your peripheral and into the center of your focus.
You will be alright.
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